Completing our family.

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Hi, I just wanted to write a little bit about myself & our family so potential surrogate mothers can know & understand us a little better & help them decide whether to help us as Intended Parents. Firstly, I'd like to say to all the potential Surrogate Mothers what very special people you are to offer something so massive & selfless so to help a couple have the amazing gift of a child. You obviously have a lot of empathy to understand how difficult it is to have fertility problems & not be able to just get pregnant & have that baby you so desperately want, whether it's a first child for the couple or a second one as in our case. So just to introduce ourselves, my name is Bronte, my husband's name is Henry & we have beautiful 13 year daughter, Sunny. I have always loved children & wanted a large family of 2 or 3 children. However, I have suffered from chronic pain since my early 20's & have a condition called Fibromyalgia. It has impacted a lot on our lives but it has certainly not stopped us loving being parents & having our daughter has brought us so much joy. It only took 2 months to conceive her when I was 32 so I didn't think I had any fertility problems at all. Having our daughter has a been a complete joy but carrying her around in the earlier years definitely took a bit of a toll on me so we decided we would delay our second child for a few years until Sunny was a bit more independent & basically so I wouldn't have 2 very young children at once. We unfortunately didn't have any family help which can make a huge difference to your day to day life. My in laws were too frail, my father had passed away by the time Sunny was four & my mother, who had remarried was never maternal, was & is very narcissistic & has sadly never had interest in her grandchildren in any way . We also struggled quite a bit financially in the early years before we'd established ourselves, so we could not afford to pay for any help. Sunny was born at the end of 2003 so we didn't try to have another child until 2006. We did manage to get pregnant but unfortunately I miscarried. We decided again to wait another couple of years as my father was getting more frail & eventually he went missing in Feb 2008 & is presumed to have suicided, although sadly a body has never been found. Obviously, this affected me quite a lot & we decided to move to the country in 2009. Not long after that we decided it was time to add that desperately wanted second child to our family. We had a lovely big property, secure finances & of course so much love to invest in another child to complete our family & to give give Sunny a much needed sibling. However, by this time I was 39 & to our dismay, after a year of trying we still had not fallen pregnant. Our GP referred us to a fertility clinic in Perth. We tried two cycles of IVF over the next number of years without success & because of my pain & that I struggled to drive the 3 1/2 hours to the fertility clinic in the city it took us years to do two cycles. I am now 46 & have retrospectively been diagnosed with endometriosis so it is very unlikely we could fall pregnant, even using IVF. However, the years have certainly not dimmed our yearning for another child so we are now looking for one of those amazing women who are prepared to be a gestational surrogate mother to help us to finally fulfill our family dream by carrying & giving us the precious gift, our baby!

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