Start by finding an IVF clinic or Surrogacy Provider that is knowledgeable and experienced in working with gay men or gay couples.
IMPORTANT! Address all of your questions and concerns with each agency to gain an independent idea of who you feel comfortable working with in choosing to represent you.
Make notes for each place you contact including the agency or clinic costs, policies and procedures.
Who will be Providing Sperm?
Male couples will need to decide who will provide the sperm. Once this is clear, this individual will undergo a physical exam, medical history and sperm analysis.
If suited, some agencies will mandate that the sperm be frozen and placed into quarantine for 6 months.
How Do we Find a Surrogate Mother?
The next step entails finding a Surrogate Mother and Egg Donor independently or through the agency. You may find your Surrogate through Egg Donation. The egg donor can be someone you know or you may decide to use an anonymous donor.
What are the Legalities of Gay Male Surrogacy?
After you select your Surrogate Mother/Egg Donor, you will meet with an attorney to advise you of your legal rights and wide range of Surrogacy issues. A legal contract will be drafted. It is critical that you choose an attorney with experience with gay surrogacy.
After the legal contract is in place the selected egg donor and Surrogate will begin oral contraceptives followed by hormone treatment to coordinate their menstrual cycles in preparing their bodies for the egg donation or embryo implantation.
To learn more about the egg retrieval and transfer process see our Egg Donation and IVF sections.