I just recently , well, 10 months ago gave birth to a beautiful baby boy, My fiance and I have been together since the 10th grade and waited until we were 29 to have a baby. We always wondered what it would have been like if we had our baby sooner but we feel like we made the right decision. We are much more patient and experienced in life now.
Having a baby is the greatest thing that has ever happened to us. I mean seriously, Its like starting a new life and becoming a new person. A person who does baby talk and jumps around like a monkey and cleans a dirty diaper then proceeds to eat their lunch .
We have so much more love now and a baby will bring more space into your heart that you never new existed. It is not by any means easy. No way. It even makes it harder to keep you mojo going with your spouse, So you have to be more creative. If you have a good realationship it will make you more connected and you both stronger. And then you feel like you figured oh that yeah, that's what life is about. Raising a child and having a family, For some people anyway and not just so that you can have something to talk about with you friends with children.
When I decided to try I thought okay a few times and Ill be pregnant. After 10 months went by of buying tests and being completly disappointed every time I finally said I'm gonna stop trying and let it happen. Sure enough, 2 weeks later I got pregnant.
I was beginning to think I may have waited too long and it could take forever. And that feeling scared the crap out of me. Looking at my son and knowing that if he couldnt be possible, I couldnt imagine.
That is why I am an advocate for surrogacy. I couldn't imagine not being to have my son and If I could bless another family that would be so great.
I also loved being pregnant so there is that too. I have been wanting to foster for a while now but I think this might feel my void of philanthropy until then.
Any mother's out there that are struggling , I hope that you become successful in whatever surrogacy or IVF journey thate you are going through !
