ZHI, Other Intended Parent in Rochester, New York, USA

Explain your reasons for wanting a surrogate/donor:

Now I am 40 years old and I have been through many different cultures, ups and downs in my own personal life, and never-ending self-education with principles and philosophies on how to improve myself. I do meditation every day and I exercise every day. But what I am also eager to have in my life is to love and nurture a kid as much as I should, share my life lessons with him or her, watch him or her grow into a beautiful adult, and smile when he or she calls me the stubborn, old man. Even though I never stop self-reflecting all that I have done in life and how to become a better person, the thought of having a child (which has been on my mind for over 10 years) struck me to become even the best person that I can. I want to be the role model for the kid and I want to be proud by my son or daughter as much as I proud of him or her.

How would you best describe yourself(s):

I am a very stable, loving, secured single man who wants to be a father.I am willing to do it as a single parent.

Use this space to communicate a letter to potential Surrogates/Donors:

Nice to meet you! First of all, I really want to express my deepest gratitude to you because you are willing to consider helping me or other people in the similar situations to achieve one of the biggest dreams in our life ever.It is very honorable and altruistic to say the least. I would like to give you a brief introduction of me.I originally came from China.I stayed in China till I finished the master program and then headed to the University of Alabama to finish my Ph.D.study.Now I am a college professor in Rochester NY.I came from a broken family but both of my parents were very responsible parents.Growing up in that environment.I was always striving to be the model boy that makes everyone proud; I studied very hard, I joined sports team, I sang, and I was casted in stage plays.I actually got the top award in almost all these fields that I had participated. However, I was never truly happy.I was struggling with a big secret in my heart that had been hidden from everyone for more than 30 years.I was serious and tough; I had to, otherwise I worried the big secret would slip out when I was momentarily weak.For this reason, I hate myself for not being able to be the one that I was supposed to be.I decided to keep doing what I should do as defined by my parents and the society, instead of what I truly wanted to do. In *** I moved to Alabama to pursue my doctorate degree.It was there, the southern hospitality and the laid back culture slowly liberated me.For the first time, I realized that I could be still a good person, while being happy.There I met my teachers and friends, who softened me and helped me to embark the journey of self-discovery with the endless patience. It took me another 10 years to finally collect the courage to come out as a gay person while stop feeling guilty for myself.I am a strong and sunny person, but sometimes I can be stubborn and set in the old ways while being blind to the doors opened by God of being a better person. Now I am 40 years old and I have been through many different cultures, ups and downs in my own personal life, and never-ending self-education with principles and philosophies on how to improve myself.I do meditation every day and I exercise every day.But what I am also eager to have in my life is to love and nurture a kid as much as I should, share my life lessons with him or her, watch him or her grow into a beautiful adult, and smile when he or she calls me the stubborn, old man.Even though I never stop self-reflecting all that I have done in life and how to become a better person, the thought of having a child (which has been on my mind for over 10 years) struck me to become even the best person that I can.I want to be the role model for the kid and I want to be proud by my son or daughter as much as I proud of him or her. I am not sure if I have truly expressed myself in a meaningful way.What I can guarantee you is that I will love this kid endlessly and encourage him or her to be a happy, sunny, and helpful person who has a high level of integrity.From my own experience, true happiness will never arrive with the compromise of integrity. I am sorry for this long letter and I humbly ask you to consider my case.If you have any questions, please ask me directly or through the agency, and I will be more than happy to provide you with the honest answers.Thank you very much! Sincerely, Tom