Tracy, American Intended Parent in New York, USA

Explain your reasons for wanting a surrogate/donor:

Last winter, we suffered a devastating pregnancy loss at 22 weeks, after which I had a pulmonary embolism. I have thankfully recovered well, but another pregnancy would be dangerous. For this reason, we are endlessly grateful for the selflessness of gestational carriers.

How would you best describe yourself(s):

We are a happily married couple who love spending time with our friends and family and each other. We are easy going, fun, and appreciate a good sense of humor. My husband and I both adore kids, and are hoping to start our own family through surrogacy.

Use this space to communicate a letter to potential Surrogates/Donors:

To our potential gestational carrier: First, let me say that my husband and I are in absolute admiration of you for willing to help people like us in the most selfless, giving, and amazing way imaginable. My husband Mark and I are happily married, easy going, and both appreciate a good sense of humor. We love spending time with our friends and family, exploring new neighborhoods, and good food (especially shared in good company). For as long as I can remember, I’ve wanted to be a mother more than anything in the world. As the oldest child in my family, some of my favorite memories have been caring for and playing with my little sister and cousins. When I met Mark, one of the things I loved about him immediately was how much he also loved kids – which was apparent by how he spent his Saturday mornings volunteering to help children in our area with school work, and how wonderful he was with his nephew. As Mark and I grew closer, fell and love, and got married, one thing we have always agreed upon is that we are committed to having a family of our own. We look forward to imparting our values of helping and caring for others, the importance of family, learning, fun, and laughter on our children one day. We also feel lucky that our future children will not only have the unconditional love and support of a mother and father, but will be instantly adored by incredible grandparents, aunts, uncles and cousins. Starting a family, however, has been more difficult than we imagined. We endured the devastating loss of our first pregnancy at 22 weeks, after which I suffered from a pulmonary embolism relating to the pregnancy. As a result, we have been advised that it would be much safer for both me and our future children to have the help of a gestational carrier. We are optimistic that with your help, we will be able to grow the family that we so deeply desire. We hope to have an open, honest and close relationship with our surrogate, and we want to stay very involved with the pregnancy by speaking often, attending important doctor’s appointments, and of course being at the birth of our future child. Please contact me to learn more - we hope to speak soon! All the best, T&M