Amer, American Intended Parent in Fort Lee, New Jersey, USA

Explain your reasons for wanting a surrogate/donor:

As a gay kid and teenager, I never considered fatherhood a possibility. Thankfully, my teen years saw the first state, Massachusetts, pass by a law granting same sex marriages and subsequently saw the publicized stories of gay dads becoming biological parents. I met Alex when I was 28 and developed a strong connection to him from the first moment I saw him. One item we discussed was the question of becoming dads. Being with someone who feels the same brought a new meaning to the concept of what family should be and also the will to find a way, no matter what it takes. For us, things never came easy. As a gay man I thought that getting married and getting a home with the man I love would be hard to achieve, and I was right, the path was full of obstacles, but we overcame them. We are currently interviewing some egg donor agencies and are looking to make a decision soon but would like to link ourselves with a surrogate (Mom) that wants to be a part of our loving family as well. Our goal would not solely be to have you as a gestational carrier of our child, but become a member in our family that we could speak to and see occasionally. A surrogate is now the only missing piece of the puzzle. We know it won’t be easy to find someone, but we’re putting lots of positive energy out there to find the right GC who’s willing to help us make our dream come true! My life growing up as a gay teenager was not an easy one by any means. My father was not supportive of my "decision" to be a homosexual at first and his greatest concern was that he would never have a grandchild. Unfortunately, my father passed away six years ago after a long battle with an illness and will never be able to see this come to fruition. I hope that someone aids us in not only fulfilling this dream of ours, but also aid my father in obtaining his dying wish.

How would you best describe yourself(s):

Our names are Amer and Alex. We have been together for over eight years and have been legally married for 1.5 years. We live together in New Jersey with our little French bulldog, Phillipe, in a very loving and nurturing home. We like to think that we possess a strong and happy relationship and we know it is time to expand our family with the addition of a child. We are first generation Americans and products of people who emigrated out of their countries in pursuit of the "American Dream." I (Amer) am the product of Albanian and Montenegrin immigrants who fled the former Yugoslavia in pursuit of a better life and equality. Alex is the product of Dominican and Puerto Rican parents who also immigrated to NYC in pursuit of better opportunities. We are very fortunate to be members of our our respective families since they are understanding of our sexual orientation and are looking to provide as much emotional support is needed to accomplish our dream of having our own biological baby. I, Amer, work extensively in the property management field and have been doing so for over ten years. I first obtained my interest in working in the real estate industry from my father who was a building manager. My mother, a janitorial services manager, also worked in a management related field as well. I always admired their drive and ambition to achieve the best they could for their family. I applied this to my own life by working full-time and going to college in the evening in order to obtain my degree. We are both fit and adventurous people who like to go to the gym, go on hikes and travel the world when possible (and when finances permit lol). We are also the product of tightly knit immigrant families so spending time with our respective families also plays a large role

Use this space to communicate a letter to potential Surrogates/Donors:

Here we are, hoping for a miracle. We’d love to hear from you if you’d consider embarking on this journey with us as our Hero. Ideally we would like to find a TD or GS from Canada, since that's where we would fly to most easily. We believe we will be as flexible as possible and be sure to spoil our surrogate as much as we can 🙈 Of course we can't speak from experience yet, but when we hear about certain demands some IPs put on their GC it seems much more intense than what we would be requesting. We are just grateful to have the ability to do this, so I think we would be very easygoing. Visits: Although we live in NYC, we are always willing to travel :) Communication: We‘ll spend lots of time talking over a distance, so whether the surrogate mother prefers video, phone, text or a combination of all three, we are flexible. We will work together to find a great balance between staying in good touch throughout the pregnancy, (while still respecting the surrogate mother’s boundaries, of course). Delivery: We will absolutely be present on delivery day to support the surrogate mother during her big moment, and to meet our child as soon as possible!