Intended Parent from Chicago, Illinois, USA.
Explain your reasons for wanting a surrogate/donor:
We went through 5 IVF cycles with no success, and discovered that I am unable to carry. So surrogacy is the last option for us. We have several frozen high quality embryos that we would like to transfer to a caring, selfless GS. We are interested in speaking with a surrogate mom (with her own medical insurance) who ideally has experience doing this for another family... though not mandatory. We also want our GS to be open to testing (amnio, CVS, etc) given my late age. And we did a lot of soul searching around the topic of reduction. It's not a decision we want to make or want to ever be forced to make - and pray that we don't. It's such an incredibly private, intimate, gut-wrenching decision that we do not take lightly... however, we need that to be made between my husband and myself. That said, we would never ask anyone to do something they aren't comfortable with... so our GS must be open to this.
How would you best describe yourself(s):
We are a happily married couple in our late 30's and early 40's from Chicago. We've been together for 14 years. We have a beautiful 2.5 year old boy that is our greatest joy. We are so fortunate and blessed to have experienced this miracle first-hand. One would say that we should be incredibly grateful that we have one healthy child - and believe me we are incredibly thankful. That said - and I think parents w/ multiple children would understand this - our little guy just loves spending time w/ other children and we can't imagine him growing up alone. We are so eager to have another blessing to complete our family. We had considered adopting, but given that we have one child who is mixed (My husband is caucasian and I am Korean.), we would love to have another child who is biologically similar so they can navigate life as a mixed race child together.
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Hi - we recently found a surrogate to help us in our journey. I can't seem to update my post - but thank you to those who have reached out. We will think of you
