Intended Parent from Branson, Missouri, USA.
Explain your reasons for wanting a surrogate/donor:
I have one child with my husband. I would like to have another with him. But I almost died while pregnant with our daughter and now I’m having I have a complete hysterectomy. I want another child too. SO much.
How would you best describe yourself(s):
Mature. Loving. Well-rounded. Educated. Considerate. Kind. Empath. All these good things, but I’m human. So occasionally. I’m a hot mess. But I pull up my big girl pants, adjust my crown, and I’m good again.
Use this space to communicate a letter to potential Surrogates/Donors:
This site wants us to write a letter for a potential surrogate. I honestly don’t know what to say. How do you say to a complete stranger that you’ve never met, “Uhm, excuse me, ma’am? Hi! Can I rent your uterus for nine months to grow a baby in it? Just nine months... maybe a little less... but if all goes well the full nine. I will pay, I just, I really want a baby and if I try to do it myself I will die so.... whaddaya say? You game?” Seems a bit... crude. I think being a surrogate for all the right reasons is a very noble and incredible generous, selfless thing to do. I do know what it is like to carry a baby in your womb for nine months. I can not imagine doing so for the sole purpose and intent of another couple, let alone allowing your womb to be used as someone else’s genetic material is inserted into your body to create a baby that is in no genetic way any part of you but doing so anyway because you just want to help a stranger. I also know how complicated and difficult and dangerous pregnancies can be so you’re not only giving the use of your womb for total strangers, but you’re also risking your own life to a degree. I can’t imagine how wonderful of a person you’d have to be to help another woman become a mother. I know my letter probably is the most tactless, forward intended parent letter you’ve ever read and maybe even finding it a bit off putting. But I feel transparency and honesty are the best approach always. People will either find you compatible or they won’t. So that’s my awkward and super weird letter. Please remember this is my first one and I seriously don’t know what I’m even supposed to say here... so I’ve just been myself. Thank you for your time. Thank you for being a surrogate. Respectfully, DeAnna
