Cortney, American Intended Parent in Mount Holly, North Carolina, USA

Explain your reasons for wanting a surrogate/donor:

My husband and I have been trying to conceive for 4 years, with 3 of those 4 years spent with a fertility clinic in Charlotte. We have had 3 failed IUIs, 4 egg retrievals, 7 IVF transfers which resulted in 3 miscarriages and 4 failed cycles. We have one precious embryo left and we’re told that we only had a 10% chance of being able to carry. This is the absolute hardest thing that we have ever been through or had to endure. We want what’s best for our one little precious embaby.

How would you best describe yourself(s):

My husband and I are and have been first responders/public servants/healthcare workers for all of our career. We have spent our lives helping others and now the tables are turned and we find ourselves asking for help. We are currently foster parents, we received our license last year and going through fostering is about as hard as IVF we have learned. We do however have 2 sweetest foster littles with us now but their future is uncertain. Foster/adoption is something we both have always been passionate about and it has always been apart of our plan no matter how things turned out with our infertility. We have an abundance of love and just want to share it, with our fosters and hopefully one day with our own baby, which we so desperately long for. For as long as I could remember I’ve wanted to be a Mommy, have a little person look up to me and call me mommy. It’s a desire so strong within me and hearing that I may never be able to have that experience is overwhelmingly heart breaking. However we know God has a plan for our lives and we live faithful trusting in Him and his plan.

Use this space to communicate a letter to potential Surrogates/Donors:

This is probably one of the more difficult letters I’ve had to write. We never thought we would be here, not in a million years. We thought getting pregnant and having a baby was a piece of cake, we are both healthy individuals, we go the gym regularly, we eat healthy and we don’t do any risky activities/behaviors. However he are we are, broken hearted and in need of help. We don’t know you yet, but we have already prayed for you. We consider what your doing to be a selfless act of love and kindness. We realize the sacrifices your making to help us make our family and we could never thank you enough. Our desire to become a family and raise our little one is so strong. We long to be parents, we long to hear those sweet words “mommy” and “daddy”. Thank you for reading our story, thank you for considering us and thank you to the special person that reaches out to us.