Raj, Malaysian Sperm Donor in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia

Why I want to be a sperm donor:

These are some of the reasons : 1. To help single women or couples (heterosexual or same sex) who cannot conceive naturally. 2. It is an opportunity to give back and provide a service for someone. 3. They have seen firsthand the joy a new child can bring to a family and they would like to help women or couples who are unable to achieve a pregnancy. 4. They would like to help others enjoy parenthood as much as they have (donors with children). 5. To help women and couples unable to bear children; to add something new to their life. 6. To make a difference in the world. Some people would like to leave at least a “footprint” on the earth. 7. Giving is a good thing to do. 8. A friend’s recommendation. It is an easy way to help others and further medical research. 9. Because of the shortage of donors at SDA. 10. It is a good cause.

Description of myself:

I am a simple guy and I prefer simplicity in everything, from clothes, food etc. I don’t like things getting complicated or confusing. I am honest and always kept my family’s trust on me and also those people who are connected to me. I don’t have ego issues, I am a pragmatic person and I believe in right actions. I am a philosophical person and sometimes I like to advice people when they are doing something wrong. I like to travel to new places and feel different cultures. I am a family guy. Family is the most important part of my life and it comes first from everything and I mean it. I am a little bit patient(tolerant) as well.I love watching movies and tv series. I like to hang out with my friends. I talk to myself a lot. Sometimes in front of mirror and sometimes in my head. It gives me self-confidence.I am a positive person, but I look on the both sides positive and the negative because you don’t know what’s coming.

My letter to intended parents:

Hello IPs! We haven’t met, but we’re looking for each other already. We’re about to embark on a great adventure that will knit our lives together intimately, at least for a time, and we don’t even know each other’s names! To me, you are Intended Parents, or IPs. To you, I am a Sperm Donor, What a strange way to begin such a relationship! Though I don’t yet know you, I am pretty sure that having to have me around wasn’t an original part of your family plans. I imagine your hopes and dreams have had to change and evolve much to lead you to this point. For that, I want you to know, that I think you’re incredibly courageous people and I admire your strength and resolve. I also want you to know that I understand what incredible trust you are placing in me and I do not take at lightly. Please be assured that I did not undertake this idea on a whim. It has come with the passage of time, the gathering of information, much discussion and even more prayer. While there has been a lot of focus on me throughout the process (my health, my thoughts, my fears, my family’s role, etc) I want you to know that we have never once lost track of you. You are why I am here! Without you, I wouldn’t be going on this journey. Thank you for giving me this gift of an incredible opportunity. I know you’ll probably wonder and worry a lot about me. How can you know if I am eating right, sleeping enough, being active but not too active? How can you be sure I am taking my prenatal vitamins, that I’m avoiding too much coffee, or that I won’t be exposed to something I shouldn’t be? Can you be sure that on delivery day, we’ll all be on the same page medically? Can you rest assured that you will carry our child with as much care as your own? How will you know that I will be as communicative as you’d want? The answer to all those questions is you can’t know and you can’t be sure, you just have to trust me. I will do the same for you. I will trust that you’ll understand my needs and my judgment, just as I will do for you. At the end of this adventure, I hope we can look back on the time where you were just IPs and I was just the Sperm Donor and laugh because it seems so silly to have not always known and cared for one another. Here’s to our journey! Lets go on an adventure!