Lani, Canadian Surrogate Mother in British Columbia, Canada

Why I want to be a surrogate mother:

As a woman I discovered quite by accident that pregnancy and childbirth are a peak experience that you will only get to experience rarely in a lifetime. I think I have 1, maybe 2 healthy pregnancies that I can still carry, and I think I would like to experience it one more time with intention. I'm 40 now with regular periods and in excellent health. If we find the right fit, I am here to explore that possibility in order to help another family. I was personally ambivalent about having kids and delighted to find that it has been an amazing and life changing experience, so I now understand the longing to create a family that many experience. I'm surrounded by dear friends that have been challenged to start and build their families and been witness to their harrowing journeys while both my pregnancies happened close together and quite unplanned, with no intention or effort on mine or my husband's part. If our needs and abilities align, I would be willing to help another family as a gestational surrogate.

Description of myself:

I am a married mother of two young children living in Metro Vancouver, BC, Canada, very close to the US border. We routinely go south to Costco to top up our groceries and gas. My husband and I have stable jobs and own our own home. I am a runner and clocked a 1:56 half marathon at my last race in November *** I never have and do not smoke, drink or do any recreational substances, or drink coffee even, though I am very fond of tea. I had two uncomplicated pregnancies and smooth, intense but enjoyable natural births each time. I'm a voracious reader and enjoy cooking for my friends.

My letter to intended parents:

I have a rich family and personal life and am surrounded by supportive friends and loved ones. I am extroverted and social and open to getting enmeshed with another family to help you have your child. Pregnancies are such a magical time for parents, and I'm happy to have you join me at appointments and in the birthing suite so you can witness and participate as your child grows and comes to term. Depending on how our relationship unfolds, I am also open to staying in touch or allowing our relationship to subside following the delivery. If we are geographically close, I can commit to one month of pumping to provide you with colostrum and breastmilk to supplement your formula feeding. As a Canadian, I have access to care during pregnancy and delivery, as well as extended health coverage through both my own and my husband's plan, should any be necessary. In the province of BC, intended parents can be designated at the time of birth on the birth certificate without having to engage in any further adoption process. I am not represented by an agency, and so if we find each other to be a good match, we will carefully proceed to consult with legal advice independently and together in order to craft a workable agreement.