Intended Parent from Grosse Ile, Michigan, USA.
Explain your reasons for wanting a surrogate/donor:
I have Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome. In layman's terms it makes organ linings thin and cartilage borderline useless, depending on severity. Just the skin on the inside of my limbs is so thin, I can pull it far from the lipid layer beneath, barely feel the pinch, and have nasty bruises the next day. I'm not trusting my womb in that case. It would rupture, and saving me from sepsis or the baby from every opportunistic pathogen in my body along with suffocation, either is a long shot. I can't do this without help and I was born with this. It isn't my fault. I want a family. Even if my child gets my malady I'm the only one in my family that consistently had major symptoms in my 20s and early 30s. They will not get the disease to my severity. I also know the early warning signs and can help get them medical help from a young age, which is crucial!
How would you best describe yourself(s):
Funny, loving, bit of an introvert but going to the park will get me out of my shell, very smart, diagnosed as "suffering from high IQ", as a teen. I've worked on patience and self discipline a lot over the last year and will continue. I stopped swearing at all, some slip ups, but I'm working on it. I'm very introspective, trying to understand what others are thinking. I have flaws. I did have a temper but I'm taming that just by thinking first, taking a second and taking myself out of the picture, usually coming up with a better answer. I can be forgetful, but just, "Where'd my phone go now?", not even "I forgot to feed my cat". I procrastinate sometimes, but it's always for myself: studying in college when I waited til the night before, some clutter in my rented apartment (We are house hunting right now) because we have more cool stuff than space! In our own place, I'm already imagining interior design and baby rooms and want to renovate so it looks, and by my effort stays, clean. We're far from a hoarder situation now. It's pretty neat, just, too many shelves, curios, and cabinets. I want someone I can watch grow, help to fly in life, pass the lessons I learned the hard way down so they don't have to go through it. I want to nurture, as my grandmother did me.
Use this space to communicate a letter to potential Surrogates/Donors:
You're an angel for even reading. I've cried over this. I have a Happily Ever After marriage and he will be the best dad. I lost my family. My father was abusive in all the ways and my mother excused them all! I want to show a child a beautiful childhood, and I know how, because I remember, from the loving grandparent that raised me til her death when I was 13. I can't wait for arts and crafts, showing my favorite Disney movies, watching my husband be silly and share those beautiful fatherly moments people value so. We're already talking about turning our basement into an arcade for them (We plan on 2, 2 years apart.) I'm disabled. My parents were abusive. My brother held a gun to my head. My grandmother who died when I was 13 and my husband I married at 26 are the only family I know. I want to be the opposite of what my "parents" were, show that child love and compassion, and never even raise my voice. We don't in my marriage. I have practice. One mom considers me a guardian angel for her 16 year old because I keep pervs away. Just, please help. This is a dream for me, in my prayers almost every day. I've noticed many kind enough to offer this are from Africa. I'm willing to fly you to me, pay a wage you find adequate (Top 2% in American wealth, wanting to help more good people come to America. My father in law isn't a citizen, but he's here on a green card. We will do anything in our power to help you stay, and we are so fed up with people being rude that we will actually just help people for being good people. That's how I met the family whose daughter I "internet babysit".) pay that satisfies all parties and, if my plan works, give a great start to a woman in America who deserves it. So many are getting their baby parts removed young. I didn't want kids either, until I met a husband that will be a fantastic father.
